Feeling Frisky? The Truth Behind Your Sex Drive

Feeling Frisky? The Truth Behind Your Sex Drive

What did your mama really give you?

Men and women sex driveWe all know what the textbooks say: men have higher sex drives and they can be turned on at the drop of a hat. But what if everything we’ve known about our libidos has been slightly off-center? That’s right—new studies are showing that there’s more to learn about what’s revving the engine than previously thought.

Guys v. Girls

Naturally, it’s different for men and women, but just how different is it? According to Abraham Mogentaler, M.D., director of Men’s Health Boston and associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical, the great divide isn’t so great. With over 25 years’ experience helping men with their sex drive, Mogentaler has a lot to share.

Men:

  • Although women are usually the ones accused of faking orgasms, men can and do. Usually, this is for the same reasons women do and isn’t always accompanied with semen.
  • Despite what pop culture may have told you, men aren’t always in the mood for sex, either. In fact, women may have a stronger sex drive than men in some cases—and it’s perfectly normal.
  • Also contrary to popular belief, most men seem more focused on making sure their partner is satisfied than being selfish. Of course, sometimes this comes with age and maturity—so don’t always assume the worst.

men and women sex drive

Women:

  • While it’s easy to assume that women’s sex drives are increasing in recent years, the more likely truth is that women are just being more open about their needs. With cultural sensations like Fifty Shades of Grey taking out some of the taboo on discussing bedroom preferences, it’s not as unheard of for women to speak up.
  • Women are starting to embrace a more masculine side in response to cultural movements such as The Great Birth Control Debate. Speaking up and taking on more masculine roles in the home and workplace is no longer unheard of—in fact, it’s becoming almost expected.
  • According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more women aged 15-29 are showing a strong decrease in having children. Whether due to safe-sex practices or a drive to build a career, there seems to be an increase in sexual activity without an increase in procreation.

So what does all of this mean?

If you’re beginning to have bedroom-related concerns—whether about your own sex drive or that of your partner’s– come chat with us. In addition to a natural increase or decrease, there could be underlying factors such as a mood disorder or disease. We can also help find a birth control method that’s right for you, so don’t hesitate. We’re here for you!